Nothing is going to have effect by teaching or telling the children. They learn by seeing. They see the behavior of their parents and learn. They see how you behave with others and how you behave with them. How you behave with each other. Children always keep noticing all this.
There is a small story. There was one lady with very bad nature. She had her old father-in-law. She used to give him milk in a very dirty utensil made of clay. The poor fellow used to drink in the same pot without complaining. The son of the lady used to take that milk and give it to his grand father. One day that clay pot got broken. The child started crying loudly. The mother asked the child, “Why are you crying so loudly, what is there to cry for a small clay pot?, if it has broken doesn’t matter”. Then the child said, “Mother, I am crying because I am thinking that when you will get old then in which utensil I will give you the milk as this dirty clay pot is broken.” After listening this, the mother understood and said that if the other pot will be purchased then you will not cry and give me the milk in that when I get old.
So the children always keep on observing your behaviour and whatever you do affects your child deeply rather than giving him big lectures about righteousness from morning till night. Therefore, all the Sahaj Yogis who are here and whose children are studying here should understand whether they have the integrated knowledge or not. After getting the integrated knowledge one doesn’t feel bad if made to understand things and doesn’t get spoiled even if he is loved a lot.
My eternal love flows towards you all and I keep on telling you things and making you understand but you have not got hurt neither have you gotten spoiled. The reason is because it is done with integrated knowledge. If the children know that you love them with full heart then even one scolding is enough but instead if you always keep on scolding them then they think that it is your habit to scold and they don’t pay attention or respect. So the children should be handled very carefully and with love. In fact I would say that you must keep them with love. If you find any bad behaviour in them or negative activity then observe it three-four times and then peacefully sit with them and tell them that it is not good. You will be surprised to see that if you behave with them properly and with love then they will be afraid to lose your love and will correct themselves fully. But if you have never shown your love to your child and always tried to correct him “Keep this here, keep this there, arrange this, do like this, do like that etc.” then the children will think that it is your habit to always say like this and they will not give importance to what you say. So your behaviour has to be integrated.